HOW TO COME OUT TO YOUR PARENTS
- This is a very important topic and I haven’t seen something like this yet so I thought I’d make it. It’s actually not as complicated as you might think.
- First off, start telling friends because they will be easiest because chances are they knew and were just being polite. Generally they will be more accepting because the younger generations are more accepting than the older. If they’re true friends they will stay with you so this is the best test to see how strong and true your friendship is. If they accept it, your relationship will be much more tight because you don’t have to keep pretending anymore. This is important so you have a safety net in case something happens when you tell your parents.
- If however like in my instance they say they’ll be your friend but don’t agree please do not keep them as friends. It’s very toxic to have someone who thinks you’re wrong because you’re not. You’ll put up with years of abuse hoping for it to get easier but it won’t. It will get painfully worse.
- When having a discussion with your parents, bring up gay marriage and their view of it. Then later ask what if one of their kids was gay and see what they say. And depending on your confidence level you can decide whether or not to tell them now. This way is much less awkward than flat out dropping the “I’m Gay” bomb on them.
- If they do happen to say no, you need to find another family member or family friend help talk to your parents about it with them. As sad as it is, parents are more likely to respond to someone of authority over you. I promise there is at least one person in your family who accepts gays.
- Start surrounding yourself with other gay teens. This is the easiest way to communicate with others who have experience and mentor you about how things work. It’s the best way to start figuring out who you are.